Redefining Success as a high-achiever
I’m 35, and I’m not ashamed to admit…
I don’t currently own a home.
I used to. But I sold it when we made the leap to move to Spain in pursuit of building a life that felt more us. More freedom, more intention, more connection. I know in North America, home ownership is often seen as a status symbol or milestone of having “made it.” But I’ve let go of tying my worth to square footage. I might own a home again someday—but right now? It’s just not the thing that defines success for me.
I also don’t have a traditionally “stable” income.
I’m an entrepreneur. And while that means my income ebbs and flows, my sense of self-worth no longer does. There was a time I clung to the safety of a paycheck, measuring my success in digits and consistency. Now, I measure it in alignment, in impact, in how I feel about the life I’m living. Uncertainty still comes up—but I trust myself more than ever to ride the waves.
I make a lot of mistakes.
Sometimes I move slowly. Sometimes I learn the hard way. But I’ve learned that it’s part of my design to move through emotional waves before I decide. It’s uncomfortable at times—I can feel the pressure to rush, to have it all figured out—but my growth has come from honouring my timing and not getting stuck in fear or paralysis. I don’t regret my detours. They’ve all taught me something. They’ve all led me closer to myself.
I don’t have a huge circle of friends.
There was a time I did. And over the years, that changed. Some drifted, some dissolved, and some just weren’t aligned anymore. Motherhood changed me. Inner work changed me. And as I grew, I got clearer on what I needed from relationships. It’s been lonely at times, but also liberating. I now find myself surrounded by fewer—but deeper—connections. And that’s what feels good.
I don’t have “the [ideal] body” image of someone who’s career is centred around health and wellness.
I just… love food too much. I eat cheese. I eat bread. I enjoy sweets. And I believe my body is wise and worthy, exactly as it is. I don’t restrict or punish it—I listen to it. I move in ways that feel nourishing. Yoga, pilates, cycling, dancing. I’m not chasing a body ideal. I’m creating a life that feels vibrant and grounded, one meal and movement at a time.
I have wrinkles…and I don’t plan to try to erase them.
Deep ones on my forehead, actually. And a small chest. And thicker thighs. And I have zero interest in Botox, fillers, or changing my face to look like it did ten years ago. These lines? They’re expressions of life. Of laughter. Of late nights. Of years lived deeply. I don’t wear makeup most days. I prefer comfort and quality over logos and labels. I like who I am when I look in the mirror, and that didn’t come from perfecting my appearance—it came from coming home to myself.
Between 27 and 35, I started redefining what success looked like.
I realized I’d been living out someone else’s version—chasing checkboxes that weren’t even mine. So I let go. I stopped measuring success by how it looked and started paying attention to how it felt. And now? My life might not tick every “traditional” box, but it feels aligned, intentional, expansive.
And to me, that’s everything.
So, now? Success looks very different.
Success is:
Having the courage to start over, even when it’s scary.
Cultivating a deep, unwavering sense of self-trust.
Feeling safe in my body, with a regulated nervous system.
Experiencing the luxury of slowing down and resting without guilt or fear.
Actively healing generational trauma and creating new patterns.
Expanding my inner freedom by shedding limiting beliefs and old conditioning.
Reconnecting with my authentic self—the version of me before the world told me who to be.
Building solid, supportive relationships rooted in growth, truth, and better communication.
Doing work I love—work that fills me with meaning and purpose.
Having more time and presence with my family, not just rushing through life.
Choosing experiences, not just achievements—more joy, more travel, more living.
Feeling grounded in my worth and kind in the way I speak to myself.
Waking up with joy and gratitude for the day ahead.
Loving who I am, and who I’m becoming.
No, my life might not look “traditionally successful.”
But it feels like freedom, alignment, and truth.
And that, to me, is everything.
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