My Journey with Nervous System Dysregulation, & Learning to Reclaim My Peace.

I want to share something really personal with you today. It’s a part of my story that I didn’t fully understand for a long time. If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are completely out of control, or if you’ve had those moments where everything seems to trigger you for no reason, then you might find something helpful here.For a while, I couldn’t figure out what was happening to me. I found myself constantly upset, easily frustrated, and often angry over the smallest things. Sometimes, my emotions would swing from one extreme to the other with no warning—no clear reason, no buildup, just sudden shifts that left me feeling drained and confused.The truth is, I was in a state of constant overwhelm. And at the time, I thought it was just me. I wondered, What is wrong with me? Why couldn't I just be calm and collected like I used to be? I didn’t realize that what I was experiencing wasn’t just emotional chaos—it was a sign that my nervous system was out of balance.

Over time, I came to understand that my body was in a constant state of “fight or flight,” a natural stress response triggered by feeling constantly under stress and pressure — like the financial stress, and the stress of feeling the need to constantly do doing something—producing, performing, the feeling of always being behind, and in a rush. It wasn’t just about the emotional ups and downs I was feeling—it was something deeper, rooted in my nervous system. And the more I learned about this, the more I began to understand what was really going on inside me. If any of this sounds familiar to you, it might be a sign that your own nervous system is dysregulated. And trust me, you don’t have to stay stuck in this place. Let's dive into the key signs that were showing up in my life, and how you can recognize them in your own.

1. Constantly on Edge, Even When Things Are Going Well

Have you ever felt like you’re overwhelmed, even when things should be going fine? You may feel like you’re constantly stressed out, unable to relax or let go of the pressure building up inside you. I used to think this was normal for me, but in reality, I was living in a constant state of low-level stress. As I took on more responsibilities—corporate job, bills, and of course, motherhood—everything started to feel like too much.

If this sounds like you, your nervous system may be dysregulated. That sense of overwhelm, of never feeling like you can quite catch up or get enough rest, is a key sign that something in your body is trying to get your attention. When your system is overloaded, it’s difficult to relax. You’re stuck in a cycle of worry, constantly thinking about the to-do list, your relationships, or your future.

2. Snapping, Irritability, and Emotional Reactions

I left like I was living on the edge — and not in a fun, bad-ass way! On the edge of overwhelm, and frustration. Even small things set off an intense reaction because I felt like —“Oh great— One more thing!”. From there it seems all to easy to find that tipping point into anger. As someone who previously considered herself to be patient and even-tempered, this was alarming for me. Even more so as someone who had spent the majority of her life internalizing her anger, it was an unsettling feeling to “lash out” at others. I couldn’t understand Why was I lashing out at the people I loved? This was a red flag and a wakeup call for me. Asign that I was not managing my stress well. The worst part? It felt like I had no control over it.

I was experiencing emotional volatility, and that’s a big red flag that your nervous system is dysregulated. When your body’s “fight or flight” response is triggered over and over again, even tiny things feel like huge problems.

If you feel like you’re always at your breaking point, with emotions you can't explain, it's likely a sign of dysregulation. It’s not your fault—but it is your responsibility to heal and regain control.

3. Sensory Sensitivity and Overwhelm

Loud noises, bright lights or certain colour lights, certain strong smells, and being in big crowds, and other sensory input could be tough to manage. I couldn’t handle malls, especially during holiday time, I was also easily irritated or stressed by small things that others didn’t notice, like clutter or the sound of appliances running. 

Things like dry skin, sticky hands, a hung nail, or other unpleasant sensations could drive me crazy. HSPs (high-sensitive persons) often have a low threshold for sensory stimulation. Loud noises, glaring lights, and strong smells can be distracting and even disturbing. This sensitivity is also common in people with dysregulated nervous systems. It’s more than just being a little picky—it’s that certain stimuli, like bright lights or clutter, can actually cause stress. Your body’s response to these stimuli becomes amplified when your nervous system is out of balance. The loud noise at a party, or the flicker of a fluorescent light, might feel like too much to handle.

What Does All This Mean?

Here’s the thing: This wasn’t my fault. I didn’t know that my body was responding this way because my nervous system was out of balance. But when I started to realize what was happening—when I began to understand what dysregulated nervous system really meant—it was a turning point for me. This knowledge didn’t fix things overnight, but it gave me a path forward.

If you’re recognizing yourself in any of these signs, it’s time to look at your own nervous system. But here’s the good news: You don’t have to stay stuck here.

As a life coach, I help women every day navigate these emotional challenges, and trust me, there is hope. Healing is possible. If you’re struggling with these symptoms, there’s a way out—it's just about knowing where to start and being willing to heal. If you’re ready to start your own journey toward growth, I’m here to guide you.

Let’s take control of your nervous system together.

In our coaching sessions, we’ll dive into your emotional challenges and start unpacking the layers. It’s not about avoiding the difficulties; it’s about learning how to face them head-on, regain your balance, and reclaim your life. You deserve to feel in control, calm, and empowered.

If you’re ready to break free from the overwhelm, irritation, and constant pressure, I encourage you to book a coaching session. We’ll work together to help you reset your nervous system, regain your emotional balance, and step into your power.

You can live a life where you feel at peace with your emotions, in control of your reactions, and able to thrive, no matter what life throws your way. Let’s start the journey.